Hi! I’m Tammie,

A mother, wife and tennis player.

I'm passionate about promoting compassionate conversations between friends, family, and strangers alike.

It all started last fall when I was driving with my son in Washington state. We were heading to a memorial for my father-in-law and we started talking on the long road trip. My son is transgender and we have shared many frank conversations together and we really feel like we can be open and honest with one another. 


We started talking about him being transgender and I said to him, "You know, I can't understand how you feel, just like you can't understand how I feel. But you don't have to understand, you just have to be understanding."


After coming home from Seattle I couldn't get that phrase out of my head. I felt that those words could mean something to so many different people, honestly to EVERYONE!

When I went to get the website I was already jotting down different names but unbelievably was not taken?! How could that be possible? I took it as a sign and that's how this all started. 


My real goal here is to make the world just a little more empathetic. It is often difficult to truly understand what someone else has been through, but I'm here to tell you that you have so much more value to add to the conversation. Be Understanding is here to show you that you can be there for your friend, family member or even a complete stranger despite not having the same experiences as them. 


Our slogan "You don't have to be understand, you just have to be understanding" is designed to help everyone become a bit more compassionate to others who have been through situations that you have not. 


I'm looking forward to hearing your stories and sharing how you were understanding to someone who you could not understand what they were dealing with.